A woman tried to help her ex-partner through a mental health crisis, but her current boyfriend felt betrayed and refused couples therapy. Reddit sided with her compassionate choice.
What would you do if your ex desperately needed help—but your current partner felt it was a betrayal?
That’s the dilemma one woman shared on Reddit, and it quickly became a viral debate about compassion, boundaries, and trust in relationships.
Helping an Ex in Crisis
The 34-year-old woman explained that her ex-partner had been struggling with severe mental health issues. With no one else to help him, she stepped in to assist with essential paperwork so he wouldn’t lose access to housing and benefits.
“I don’t have feelings for him anymore,” she wrote. “But he’s not capable of doing this alone, and I know it’s the right thing to do.”
Boyfriend Feels Betrayed
Her current boyfriend, however, didn’t see it that way. He accused her of prioritizing her ex over their relationship, refused to attend couples therapy, and gave her an ultimatum.
“He says if I really loved him, I’d stop helping my ex completely,” she wrote. “But I can’t turn my back on someone in crisis.”
Reddit Reacts
Thousands of commenters weighed in, with most supporting the woman’s decision.
• “Compassion isn’t betrayal. Your boyfriend sounds insecure,” one user wrote.
• “Helping someone in need—especially without romantic feelings involved—isn’t wrong,” another added.
Many suggested that the boyfriend’s unwillingness to discuss the issue in therapy was a red flag.
Doing What’s Right Isn’t Always Popular
Despite the backlash from her partner, the woman said she feels at peace with her choice.
“I can live with losing a boyfriend who doesn’t understand compassion,” she wrote. “I couldn’t live with abandoning someone who truly needed me.”
The Takeaway
The post struck a chord because it asks a tough question: Should compassion ever take a backseat to a partner’s jealousy?
Reddit’s verdict was clear—helping an ex in crisis isn’t cheating, it’s human decency.
